Jasbina 'The Matchmaker' : Be Self-Empowered, Not 'Too Controlling'

"Self-empowered women magnetize men," says Jasbina Ahluwalia.

By Jasbina "The Matchmaker & Dating Coach"

Jasbina, founder of Intersections Match - the Only National Elite Matchmaking and Dating Coaching Firm for South Asian Singles, responds to questions about relationships and dating.

Question to Jasbina: Given what I do for a living I come across as a powerful woman, often criticized by the men I date as “too controlling.” Is there a way to maintain the integrity of my personality without being perceived as too controlling?

Jasbina Says: Let me assure you that you are not alone.  As a matchmaker and dating coach to powerful men and women, I come across this issue frequently. 

As a powerful woman, how do you feel when others try to control you? Once you put yourself in a guy’s shoes, it’s easy to appreciate that women who act controlling tend to repel  men. 

Self-empowered women, on the other hand, magnetize men. Your integrity lies in being a self-empowered woman more so than a woman who exerts control over others, including men.

So how do self-empowered women act?

1.They tend to be comfortable in their own skin, making those around them comfortable as well.

2.Empowered women tend to have a strong sense of self, allowing them to be accepting of themselves and others. 

3.I'll leave you with one final thought:  Self-empowered women realize that their true power lies in their ability to control their own thoughts and actions, leaving little need to control others.

Best wishes!

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