At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled. - Marshall B. Rosenberg
Teenagers can be angry people sometimes. Yelling at friends, slamming doors, shouting out curses and breaking rules are the most common samples of behavior we see in teens today. Most of the families that have a teenage son or a daughter often have clashes and fights in the house. For teenagers, their nagging mothers and their teachers in the high school become their real enemies. Their aggressiveness and their attitude leave their parents and teachers depressed and confused. A new Harvard study says that nearly two-thirds of the U.S teens have reported that they were involved in aggressive acts like damaging property and stealing from departmental stores. Researchers point out that such teens suffer from a disorder called Intermittent Explosive Disorder. This disorder is observed in teens with the onset of puberty and teens get angry at a slightest provocation.
Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) is a controversial mental illness that has not been much explored yet. It is a disorder where the teens feel an uncontrollable rage in them. However, this mental disorder is seen only in one teen out of twelve and mainly in teenagers at the age of 13. Studies show that it could be a serious epidemic problem with raging behavior catching on from one teen to another and might need treatment including mood-altering drugs. Teens suffer from IED due to the hormonal change in them during puberty. During the period of their physical and psychological changes, they undergo stress trying to find out what they want to do in their life and how their existence affects the world.
But not all teens are experiencing this rush of rage in them. There are many teens that are best friends with their parents. They might have fights but they are happy with their parents and family. Their behavior is quite normal in school and in the general society. Those teens that have been very friendly with their parents and have been taught good manners and behavior in childhood have a normal life within their family and outside.
Sometimes teen anger is related with the generation gap. The teen years are the time when a transition from a child to an adult takes place. Sometimes teens are not able to realize the hard work and dedication their parents and family have been putting to raise them. They argue when their parents are making rules and get irritated when they are being questioned. They think that they don't need to be monitored or advised and that they know what isgood or bad for them. What they fail to understand is that all the rules and concern their parents and elders have for them is to protect them from bitter experiences in life. This causes conflict and misunderstanding among the child,parents and teachers.
The behavior and the habits of parents are most important in the growth and development of a child. Children observe their parents and they want to become like them when they grow up. The negative attitude, harsh behaviour and violence leave a deep impact on children against their parents. They start assuming that their parents don't care about them. This starts the chain of rude behavior and rage against their parents and then, people in higher authorities. They cannot tolerate anyone pointing out their mistake or telling them what to do and what not to do. The truth is, teenagers are not fully mature to tackle thisever-changing world. They fail to understand that parents and elders can provide them true love, care and the right guidance they need during hard times. When they don't get support from their parents, they seek for it with their friends or their crushes and follow the wrong path.
With the number of divorces and live-in relationships on the rise, teenagers are afraid of commitment and are often confused as to whom to trust and look for guidance. While adults in general should not shirk their responsibilities, parents should never forget how strongly peer pressure can affect the psychology of their teen child. They should try to form a healthy bridge between their beliefs and their child from the beginning. It helps to strengthen the bond of parent and child. It helps the child to grow into a sensitive and understanding person. As parents, being a reliable friend to your teen child is the best way to prevent anger in teenagers. They become furious when their parents start scolding and questioning them instead of understanding their views and point. A little understanding and flexibility with the ethics is required to build a healthy relationship with the teens. In cases where things are a little out of control, proper counselling and help should be taken from psychologists.
The only good way to protect your child from Teen Anger Disorder is to monitor your kid from the beginning. Parents should not neglect or fail to observe the changes occurring in their kids. They should make them understand that their child is not alone and they are always ready for support and help. A little love, care and understanding can make the child grow up into a sensible, honest and humble person and not be haunted by teen anger disorder.