Director Anurag Kashyap and Kalki Koechlin, who have been separated since 2013, have finally filed for a divorce. Kalki confirmed the news in an interview to a daily. "I am in a good space. Last year was a little bit more of a struggle, as I didn’t know where I was going. I wasn’t sure where my relationship with Anurag was going. All of it was unclear. Now, we are pretty clear that we are not going to be together. We have already applied for divorce and will get it soon," said Kalki.
The two had always been open about their relationship. Their love story was heart-warming and they always looked very much in love. But things obviously didn't work out for several reasons. Here's looking at how this Bollywood couple's relationship went from courtship to divorce.
The Love Story
Anurag met Kalki when he was directing her in "Dev D" in 2008. Anurag was at the time married to Aarti Bajaj, who has edited all his films except the forthcoming "Bombay Velvet," but they soon got divorced in 2009. The two have a daughter together.
Anurag asked Kalki out six months into the shoot for the film. Anurag was madly in love with Kalki soon after he met her, but Kalki wasn't aware of it. He did not disclose until much later. The two got along instantly. It's only after Anurag started frequenting Kalki's plays and started watching almost every show that Kalki realized the extent of his feelings. "I was attracted to his honesty. We are both very emotional creatures," said Kalki in an interview.
Soon after they started dating, the couple decided to move in together. They were in a live-in relationship for two years - from 2009 to 2011.
They married on April 20 in a private ceremony in Ooty. "Marriage is just a commitment to each other and nothing else," Kalki had said four months into the marriage.
Reasons for split
After marriage Kalki did not sign any new films for about six months while Anurag was very busy with his project. Anurag was quite occupied and could not give his complete attention to his new wife.
Then started the rumors about Anurag being attracted to Huma Qureshi, who he met while shooting "Gangs of Wasseypur." But Huma had denied the rumors. Kalki and Huma worked in a film together soon after the rumors began and even did several interviews together to promote the film, and the rumors died a natural death. But very few people knew that was actually trouble in paradise, but for many other reasons.
Problems seem to have started a year into the marriage. Kalki had stated in one of her interviews that Anurag gets easily influenced by people and by whats happening around him. Anurag also had the tendency to get angry about very small things and that over time started affecting his relationship with his wife.
"I used to tell him that the sky won't fall if you switch off your internet for a day. You don't have to argue with every banda on twitter. But he would get sucked into it and waste his energy on that and that would frustrate me. I could see it affect him in everything in his life, be it his work or our relationship. Twitter is just an example, but it could be anyone commenting. We live in an industry where everyone has views and they will judge you without knowing you and that is a frustration you will live with all your life if you don't let go. I too used to get upset, but learnt quickly that you can't get so affected by everything that is said," Kalki had said in an interview to Times Of India.
Things had become very tough between Kalki and Anurag arround the time that she was shooting for "Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani." Kalki's mom was sick and was in hospital for a long time. She had to juggle between the hospital and shoot. At this difficult time she also had to deal with fights with Anurag as they were becoming more frequent and tougher to resolve.
Anurag and Kalki both loved each other, but it looked their temperaments were just not matching. It took both a long time to come to a decision about their marriage and separate.
Anurag and Kalki issued a statement to the media in 2013 which read, "Me and Kalki are separating, we are taking time off from each other to figure things out. We are not divorcing. We request the media to please respect our privacy and give us our space and not speculate. Thank you, Kalki and Anurag."
Kalki shifted moved out and rented an apartment very close to Anurag's home. "One of the key issues between Kalki and me was that we did not just spend enough time with each other. She felt that it is better to have me as a neighbor than living together in the same house and that is why we have actually become neighbors now," confessed Anurag.
The two decided to take time off from each other to resolve their issues and figure out where things were going. While Anurag went back to focusing on his ambitious venture "Bombay Velvet," Kalki too got busy with her projects. Kalki also went back to writing, which she had neglected for a while and spent time with her family and went for a holiday with them.
During their separation time Anurag and Kalki were spotted together at some events, but they maintained that they weren't back together. Slowly, the two drifted apart and in early 2014, Anurag found love again. He started dating his assistant director Sabrina Khan.
"Yes, I am dating someone. I'm in a really happy phase right now," Anurag confirmed in May 2014. Anurag also confessed that Kalki was the first person he admitted to about his new relationship. "Of course, she was the first person I confided in. She is happy that I am happy," he had said.
Kalki and Anurag were struggling to understand where their relationship was going but once Anurag started dating Sabrina they knew that their relationship was now over for good.
Their relationship now
The couple has filed for divorce and will get it soon. But Kalki and Anurag continue to be friends. "We are still friends and chat and meet. He is a good guy who wears his heart on his sleeve," said Kalki.